About a month ago while attending a family members baby shower, I started talking to a friend that I have know for years but because of circumstances haven’t seen for a while.
We were chatting away about life, work, and general small talk when she suddenly stopped and asked me a very unexpected question. She asked how I was. She didn’t just want to know the surface stuff. The nice pre-prepared answer everyone always give “good thanks” before rushing of to carry on with daily life. She asked how I was in and of myself.
She caught me off guard for a moment and seeing me process her question apologized for throwing me off. It took me several moments to find the words I was looking for. How was I really? ME. Deep down in my heart and soul.
Not in how mama me was, or wife me, or daughter me, or me and any of the other hats I wear daily. Just me. Thinking back now I gave the normal response. “I am doing well thank you”. But I need to reflect on this question more. We all get so caught up in our daily lives and finding time and energy to get through the long to do list of life that we hardly take the time to:
1 Really explore how I am!
2 Ask, listen and be interested in how other people are.
Her question has been on my mind for a while now and the interaction with her made an impression on me.
So my challenges for you and myself is this. Take a moment every day to really find out how you are, and what you need for that day. And the next time you meet up with a friend or even someone you may not know that well, and they ask, or you ask “how are you?”
Take the time to listen, respond and be honest. You never know it could just make that person’s day a little brighter and help them feel less alone. They might be going through a tough time and you taking time to listen could just be what they need. Who knows you may have been through the same situation and could offer some advice that may just make things better for them.
I am still reflecting on this question.
So tell me, how are you?