Since finding out on Christmas day that we will be having a daughter, I have had a lot of things on my mind. I feel an extra amount of pressure being the mother of a daughter. Extra responsibility to teach her things and to be a good role model for her. Sure I felt pressure with my son too, to be a good mum and role model but with my girl the pressure feels more and different.
Here is a list of things I want my daughter to know:
1 You are beautiful: Do not let anyone tell you otherwise and DO NOT get caught in what the world perceives as beautiful. A beautiful heart lasts a lifetime. Outer beauty fades.
2 Look for the good in others: Always look for the good in everyone you meet. It might be hard to find, but it is there.
3 Self confidence: You have a voice and it is important that you let your voice be heard. Speak up about things that are important to you or that bothers you. And know you can always talk to me about anything. On the flip side it is also important to know when it is best not say anything.
4 Your body is special and beautiful just the way it is: Celebrate the body you have. It is unique and beautiful. I promise to work hard on this self acceptance too and to show you how to take care of your body.
5 Do things that make you happy: Don’t worry about what other people think of you. Your opinion of yourself is more important than theirs.
6 Take every opportunity you can to travel: Traveling will teach you many things about yourself and give you a new appreciation of life.
7 Read as much as you can.
8 Believe in yourself: You can do anything you set your mind too.
9 Know that you will always be loved: No matter what happens, we will always be there for you.
10 Try new things: Don’t let fear hold you back from trying things. Because by trying things that scare us we grow and learn more about ourselves.
What would you add to this list?
Over the last few months we have been preparing our little man for the arrival of his little sister. Due in April. One part of the preparation involved moving him out of his room.
At first we thought that it would take a little bit of convincing that he needed to move. But to our (pleasant) surprise he took to this new arrangement quite well. I think the promise of a new room involving CARS and painting the purple wall green helped.
We took him to Bunnings and let him pick the green he wanted for his room. He also got to choose a mat which he can play with his cars on. On one side of the mat is a farm and the other has a city on it. (This mat has been pretty well used already).
Watching him get so excited about his new room has been great. The highlight for him was being able to help his dad paint the green wall. He did a pretty good job helping.
He could hardly wait for the paint to dry to move his bed into the room. I was feeling quite excited for him too. I was expecting to feel a little sad seeing him move out of the “baby room” but was surprised that I didn’t feel sad at all.
I could not wait to start setting up the nursery which I had been itching to get my hands on. I was in full-on-nesting-mode!!!
I had a great time getting everything into the nursery. I wasn’t initially sure after having F if I wanted another baby and it took a fair while for me to decide to have another. But once all the decorations started coming out and I could make up the bassinet I was getting more and more excited about the new baby.
F loves playing in the nursery and will often spend time in there playing with his cars. He has up until now never once asked to go back to the room or said that it is his room. It is now just referred to as “the baby’s room”. I am so proud of him for adjusting so well and can only hope it lasts and that he still feels like that once his sister is here. It is exciting to see him growing up and going into this new phase of being a big brother.