You’ve probably seen us around. The mum looking frazzled with a young toddler by her side who seems to inhibit the energy of at least 20 other children in one small body. My little man is energetic,creative,talkative & just wants to explore. What do you think of us I wonder? Do you think oh I am glad it’s not me? Or I wish my child was that little again? Or even why can she not keep that ball of energy contained & quiet!!!
Well let me tell you, I try. I try really really hard to keep my little ball of energy “under control” when out. Stopping him from taking things off shelves, running away from me & out of your way. Let me also tell you I am exhausted half the time. I am not looking for sympathy because I do not believe there is anything wrong with my ball of energy! This is the way he was created & I LOVE HIM JUST THE WAY HE IS!!
I would however wish you would stop giving us the “stares & comments”. They are not helpful & only hurt. They hurt my mama heart deeply & severely. You see I want my ball of energy to grow up believing in himself. Believing that he is great just the way he is. That he would use his energy in productive ways & accomplish great things. Isn’t that what all parents want for their children? But your comments & remarks about his energy, he hears them & will one day understand more what they mean. I do not want him growing up thinking he is “bad” for being so energetic & wanting to explore. I do not want him to conform to your ideas of how children should be. Seen & not heard. Well sorry to say, you will probably always hear my boy before you see him.
I hear you say, yes but he needs to be respectful & helpful ect. I completely agree with you. I am teaching him those things daily as his mama.
Now I cannot say that we do not have great comments about him too! Because we do. If you are ever lucky enough to meet him you will see what a great little character he is. He is funny, his sense of humour is becoming more apparent as the days go by. He can deliver a great one liner without thinking about it. He is loving.(Sometimes a little too loving with his friends. In his mind there is nothing as loving as a hug around the neck for his friends. Or wanting to hold their hands or sit on them. We are working on limits with affection.)
All I ask as his mama is that you look deeper before you make a judgement on his energy & enthusiasm.That you see him for the wonderful energizer bunny that he is.
Who knows he may have something to teach you.